I think the commonality of getting to know other people is that we all put on these polished, filtered versions of ourselves as to not frighten the other person away. You might not voice your opinions and if you do, you mute the passion behind them. You might also tell them you’re super clean and organized because you happened to clean your apartment yesterday, but in reality you can destroy the zen of a room in 2 seconds after walking through the door by throwing shoes on the floor, a jacket on the couch, and your purse and keys on the table. It’s okay, you’re not alone, Karen.
You know, watching other people getting to know each other is even more awkward, though. You can tell when two people like each other and they’re just figuring out who the other person is. They’re smiling way too much and they’re finding reasons to laugh their nerves out of their bodies. They’re telling each other impressive things that sound so stupid to anyone listening, but if you’re on the receiving end, you’re talking to superman himself. It’s just so cringe-worthy. But we all act like that and we’ve all seen people act like that.
The first 3 months of a relationship is also a prime time to get to know how the other person truly is. You start to see their flaws they’ve been hiding, their quirks that are just too weird to share at the dinner table. You know their general sense of style. You might have a routine that starts to happen when you two see each other or when you go out on dates. It’s interesting.
Do you have any awkward “getting to know people” stories? Share them with me!